7 Things You Never Say to Your Husband

 Yes, you should be able to feel free to express all that is in your heart and mind to your partner, but there are some words, complaints, or sentences that you should avoid even when you are angry or disappointed. You cannot take these dangerous words back and will only disturb your household. These sentences can hurt your partner's feelings and even crack the foundation of the marriage that has been built. So, think carefully before speaking because the words you speak determine the success of your marriage. Our advice, avoid saying these things to your husband:

1. Regret about your marriage

There may be times when you are preoccupied with household matters, while your single friends seem to be enjoying their freedom. You also say, "if I were single ". Or maybe your partner doesn't live up to some of your expectations, so you say, "I shouldn't have married you." Statements that imply a sense of regret can make the husband feel like a failure in this marriage. This sentence is also painful and unproductive because you should adhere to the commitment spoken on your wedding day to live in a household together forever.

2. Comparing your husband and marriage to others.

The neighbor's grass often looks greener, so it is not uncommon to hear sentences comparing your spouse and household to other people's. For example, "My friend took his wife to Paris to celebrate their wedding anniversary, why don't we go too?" or, "try to be like my friend's husband, he is very diligent in helping his wife with the housework". Maybe you forget that every household has its advantages and disadvantages, and no marriage is truly perfect. Couples who always seem harmonious must have experienced challenges in their marriage. For this reason, you should stop comparing your life with other people and focus on your relationship with your husband, so that both of you can try to meet each other's expectations.

3. Reproach their family or friends

Even if your husband's family or friends are annoying, avoid saying words that denounce them in front of your husband. Resist the urge to say things like, "how can you stand being friends with him? He's such a slob!" or "I can't stand your mother's chatty babbling." If you are having problems with a relative or friend, explain the reason behind the problem in hopes that your husband can understand why you feel that way, or even help you solve the problem. That way, you will avoid awkward moments when the person you are referring to hears your conversation or forces your husband to take only one side.

4. Offending former lovers

Topics about past relationships are often a sensitive matter to discuss with your partner, so imagine how painful it would be if you compare your husband to your former lover. Don't even say things like, "my ex used to give me flowers every month," or "when we were dating, my ex used to do this for me," because it's inappropriate to compare your partner to an ex that you weren't successful with. Just focus on your household relationship now and don't bring up the goodness of your ex-boyfriend. Instead of comparing, try to communicate more constructively. If you want your husband to do something simply say, "I would love it if you could help me with this."

5. Underestimating the husband's hobby or career

Husband and wife should respect each other, so avoid saying anything disparaging about things they are proud of, such as hobbies or careers, as this can make your partner feel belittled. Maybe your husband's hobby or job is considered normal, but for him, it determines his identity. So, if you express displeasure or belittle these two aspects, you are tantamount to attacking your husband's identity as an individual. Try to see your husband's hobbies or work from his point of view, so you can understand the love and passion behind these two things, and give support and constructive criticism if you feel your husband can still develop.

6. Sentences that make him feel stupid

Your husband may be unreliable in the kitchen, throwing up silly ideas and jokes, or frequently forgetting where he put his car keys, but there's no need to be so critical or blaming that he feels stupid. Phrases like, "Isn't that right? Think about it carefully!", "This is all your fault," or "What a stupid idea you had" are not very good choices in this situation. It's not impossible that your husband also feels inferior or lacks self-confidence because of your words. Instead of scolding him, you should share knowledge or find a solution together. It's possible, your husband can also teach other things that he is better at to you.

7. The word divorce

Once you mention divorce to your husband during an argument or fight, that word will continue to haunt your marriage. Your household will always be overshadowed by doubt, insecurity, or suspicion. Indeed, husband and wife should not throw the word divorce too easily, even if it only intends to threaten. Because this shows a lack of commitment and confidence to maintain the household until the end of life. Unless it involves domestic violence or other serious problems, try to face the challenges of marriage together according to the vows spoken on the wedding day first.