Ancient Rome's Answer to Social Shame

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 It is natural for most of us to spend time worrying about our reputation what others think of us, whether we're deemed good or bad by the community. This can quickly become a painful topic and our thoughts can descend into bonfires of worry. What, if we're accused of something, what if we're, ostracized and mocked what, if we become a pariah, a useful way out of the panic, was suggested many centuries ago by the stoic thinkers of ancient greece and rome.

They suggested that we divide the topic of reputation into two parts, on the one hand who we are and what we think of ourselves and, on the other, what other people may decide to declare or say about us stoics reminded us of an important detail .

say about us We can never be certain of the second part of the equation. We cannot control the world beyond a certain point. There is always the possibility that someone vengeful mean or disturbed is going to say something about us and try to damage us. We can never be completely assured that they won't. This could sound like alarming news, but the stoics wished us to take it on board with courage and then gain strength from focusing on the first part of the equation, what we think of ourselves- and here things are far far brighter because we're far more in control, we can calmly evaluate what we've done, what our hearts are like and we can then come to review of what sort of people we are which can provide us with a vital bulwark against the possible vagaries and tempests of public opinion. We have a solid anchor.

 We can know who we are modern. Psychotherapy would add an important detail to this analysis. Our sense of who we feel we are often highly distorted in a negative direction by our past, which can make us far more jittery about public opinion than his. Our sense of self is the result of how other people viewed us in childhood, especially our parents or caregivers.

other people viewed Us in childhood some of us wander the world with an acute sense of shame and self-distrust that we absolutely don't deserve and we project a lot of paranoia and fear onto other people, primarily because we have been treated with disdain in our early years. We're going to start to feel a lot more solid and immune from the ups and downs of gossip, once we became conscious of how negatively biased we've been and settle in our minds, what we think we are worth, irrespective of either what figures from our past said, or what someone around us now might suddenly decide path to immunity from worry about reputation is going to lie in a far more secure and just handle on our own value.

decide Self-knowledge is a new essay book that takes us on a journey into our deepest most elusive selves and arms us with a set of tools to understand our characters properly.

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