"The girl is not very beautiful and looks simple, her body is also normal and not sexy, but why is her boyfriend handsome?"
How many times have comments like that come out of your mouths and friends? Expressions of astonishment as if they can't believe that men who are targeted by many women are actually attracted to "ordinary" girls.
Eits, Friends, Don't get me wrong. A beautiful face and beautiful body can indeed attract men in an instant, but when looking for a lover, believe me. Appearance alone is not enough. There are other things that men prefer. For example:
1. A sense of humor
For a man, there is nothing more enjoyable than chatting with a woman who can make him laugh. Especially if the man is also humorous. Women with a good sense of humor are also usually more relaxed and less easily offended. Men usually like to joke around with a joke, and women who are humorous can respond well, instead of being sulky and offended.
2. Smart, but not too smart
All men like women who are intelligent, broad-minded, and knowledgeable.But you have to be very careful not to let him feel stupid. This doesn't mean we have to play dumb in front of him. Just give him a chance to "show off" his knowledge and intelligence. For example, let us be the masters in terms of foreign policy insight, but when he is talking about the internet and computers which are his areas of expertise, listen respectfully and praise him for his intelligence in those fields.
3.Fun to chat with
This is an important factor that can even beat the physical factor. No man will ever want to date a woman who doesn't connect when spoken to. Not that women are less intelligent, but often their interests are different. The man is interested in topics A, B, C, the woman is interested in topics X, Y, Z. This problem can be solved by jointly finding what topics you both like. Or by opening up to each other to new topics. Who knows the guy might like topic Z, and the girl might like topic A too.
But a problem can also arise if the woman is too shy. Actually they liked the same thing, but the woman was too scared to start a conversation. This is a trait that should be removed immediately, at least when dealing with him. Don't be afraid to ask questions, give your opinion, and start a conversation. What harm chatting, right? Do not pause too long while speaking. Ask casual questions about himself ("Where did you go to college?"), about the things he wears ("The shoes are cute. Where did you buy them?"), or about other things that provoked his opinion.
4. Confident and able to be in control
It is natural for men to be born as leaders and want to control everything. But that doesn't mean they want a woman who can only obey like a buffalo with a nose. Men are in awe of a woman who knows what she wants, and doesn't hesitate to say it. The simplest example is when asked, "What movie are we watching?" most women answered, "Whatever". In fact, he already had a choice of films in his head. Why are you afraid of having different choice than your girlfriend's choice? At least we know what we want, and not just follow his choice. In fact, men are also tired of women who are all dependent on everything.
This does not apply only when you are alone. Men also like to see women who are in control and not only obedient to the treatment and orders of others, both in the social environment and at work.
5.Motherhood
Without realizing it, a man will ask this question in his mind, "Will this woman be a good mother to my children?" There's no need to "look for the face" of small children to show your motherly nature. Just show him some attention. He also knows that a woman who cares and can take good care of those closest to her will later become a good wife and mother.
6. Fashionable but not too much
Men like to be seen "going out" with women who look cool. No need for a face and body like a supermodel, if women take good care of themselves and have good fashion sense, men are happy to see them.But, avoid fashion trends that are too extreme and look "weird" in the eyes of most people. Men like to hang out with women who are the center of attention, but people don't pay attention because they are considered strange.
7. Don't like complaining
On Twitter, complaining about work. On BlackBerry Messenger, complaining about annoying friends. On Facebook status, complaining about crush. When they meet, complain about the behavior of the younger brother who is annoying. Complaining is human, but if what comes out of our mouths are only complaints and negative things, not only men will stay away, but also friends. Remember, complaints are contagious and can ruin the mood of other people who are happy.
8. Religious
It is undeniable that religion has an important role for men to choose the woman of their dreams. Even if the man is not religious, he will feel reassured if he knows that the woman of his dreams is close to religion. They take various forms, ranging from being very religious (hijab, praying 5 times a day, or being active in church activities, etc.), or being close to religion in daily life, for example never doing things that are forbidden by religion. Men also think that religious women will later become good wives (though in reality they are not necessarily)
Hopefully this post is useful for all Love Tips friends. Waiting for the comments.. ^_^
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